Tuesday, April 6, 2010

SPEAKING OF DATING

Awhile back I was working a closing shift with my favorite bartender, and she and I were talking about dating, specifically about the difficulties of dating when you are an service industry employee. Her experiences have led her to conclude that a relationship in this context will only work out if both people work in the same field. And I think she's right.

Take for example, my schedule for this week:
WED: 7PM-2AM
THUR: 5PM-?
FRI: 5PM-?
SAT: 10AM-6PM
SUN: 10AM-6PM

Not only do I not get home until 4AM sometimes, but then there are instances in which I'll be asked to turn around and open the next day. AND, the schedule is constantly changing and/or I'm being asked to work for somebody else. Usually I'm more than willing to take anything offered, but I'm afraid I'm not going to have a life outside of work, to say nothing of a boyfriend.

Speaking of gay + bar, everyone I work with now knows I smoke cock. I told 2 people and it spread to 20+ others in a span of a week. But no one seems to care. Which is cool. I don't have to worry about "hiding" although it's not as if I was before, it just wasn't known, you know?

I'm curious to know how other may have handled dating people with opposite schedules.

10 comments:

Steven said...

I work 3-11:30pm M-F.
My BF works 8-6pm M-F.
We've been going out for 5+ years.

Cockbag LLC said...

I am always under the feeling that if you like a person you will make time for them and vice versa. The b/f and I have conflicting schedules at times-I work full time and in school and he is in school and works on the weekend but we still make it a point to spend as much time as possible. If you start dating someone it won't be that big of a deal if they truly like you.

Mind Of Mine said...

I worked 4 nights a week 7pm - 7am and maintained a serious realtionship. We lived together though so its probably different.

I have tagged you in a post BTW.

Ian

Mind Of Mine said...

I worked 4 nights a week 7pm - 7am and maintained a serious realtionship. We lived together though so its probably different.

I have tagged you in a post BTW.

Ian

JUSTIN said...

I suppose my real concern then is the ability to actually meet someone with my schedule. Or perhaps I'm simply being neurotic.

Dean Grey said...

Justin!

I'm glad all your coworkers are cool with you being gay! That's GREAT news!

As far as conflicting schedules....

I need to find myself a boyfriend first, then I'll worry about it!

-Dean

JUSTIN said...

I know Dean...I tend to put the Chicken before the egg, or wait, is it the other way around?

Jay said...

I only seriously dated someone when we were both unemployed, lol. Not saying that i'm averse to dating now, but i'm enjoying being single :)

Dean Grey said...

Justin, we're both worry-warts at heart, I guess!

-Dean

Jamie said...

When I worked in NY there was no chance. When i went back to the WWL I didnt have a chance. It sucks and it takes a toll on you...