Yesterday I was amusing myself by perusing various ads on Craigslist (and no...not for sex!) when I came across a post with the above headline. At first, I dismissed the validity of this question as being arbitrary at best, fucking retarded at worse. But then someone happened. Over the course of the next several hours, that question kept popping up in my head...
Obviously, the answer to said question is not "one-size-fits-all" but I think, and this is just me here, at least for urban gay men, the overwhelmingly common answer is, well...NO. Disagree with me all you want (no really! I seek the opinions of others). But based on my own experiences, that might just seem to the case.
This is just going out on the limb here, but I think that those "urban gay men" that have experienced "love" in their 20's probably came out at an early age, in high school or at the start of college.
Naturally, this would give oneself time to experiment (*cough*be a slut*cough*) and then to settle down, as it were. To every rule there are exceptions, and I am sure there are a lot of guys out there that shot out of the closet like a canon and landed in the safety net of another guy.
Everyone else it seems (that I know or know of), never really found something/anyone permanent, outside of dating one for a month or two or three. And I wonder, of those guys that did date guys for say, 6 months, would they look back and consider their expired relationship true love? Obviously, the concept itself is arbitrary; without having an established baseline, or something to compare something else to, how do you know what constitutes "love"?
I thought I did with with the guy I last had a semi-serious relationship with, but looking back, maybe it was just companionship, surface beauty and explosive orgasms. Or maybe that's what it's all about(?)! Fuck if I know.
PS - After writing this I have Van Halen's "How Do I Know When It's Love" stuck in my head. Ugh.